I guess most people have been in this situation. You do something that bothers someone else, and you either wouldn’t get bothered by it yourself because not a big deal or because you don’t understand how it is offensive / how it was understood that way.

Here is the thing.

When someone else reacts in a negative way to what you do, it doesn’t really matter if you agree with them or “get it”, just apologize and try to understand it well enough so that you can try to avoid it in the future.

Everyone is different. Some of us have experienced a lot of things that results in triggers, different reactions or more extreme reactions to things.

Accept the boundaries people try to maintain, and try to not think about everything in relation to your perspective, but rather that everyone are different and one gets a lot further by not framing everything different from you as “weird”.